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Reason to Obey
Last evening I was in a
store watching a little boy play with an object on one of
the display counters. The object he was handling was not
breakable and he could not damage it but his father came
walking by and said, Dont touch that. He
then kept on going. The boy looked up and continued playing
with the item.
His mother than came by and
said, Dont touch that. She then kept on
going and the boy continued playing with the item.
What an interesting
First of all neither parent
ever paused long enough to determine if there request was
necessary. It was not.
Secondly it was obvious
neither parent meant what they said because they walked on
by without checking to see if he was obeying.
Thirdly he completely
ignored their order as if what they said did not matter.
Obviously it did not matter.
As I looked at the little
fellow I found myself feeling sorry for him. If this is a
normal pattern and by everyones behavior it appeared
to be that way, this lad is in trouble. He will never know
where the boundaries of safety really are.
One of the most important
functions of parenting is to use ones maturity to
defend our children from harm by defining for them safe
zones. We do this by paying real attention to what they are
doing and only saying no to things that matter. When we do
we then reinforce our rules with actions that enable the
child to know we mean what we say. This lad received
neither. Someday his parents will say no to something that
really does matter and he will just go ahead and harm
himself or them or someone else. And everyone will shake
their heads and wonder how this could have happened.
Our heavenly father has
defined safety zones for us. We need to heed His counsel
because He has thought it out. He knows what is and what is
not good for us and lovingly He has told us. He is a good
Father who means what He says because it is the right thing
to do or not to do.
Roger Bothwell and my address is firstname.lastname@example.org
or 151 Old Farm Rd. Leominster, MA 01453. Thank you for your
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